The Best of Cinema 2010-19
Although I belong to the school of thought the numeral system begins with 1 and not 0, since the entire world is betrothed to the idea of a new decade beginning 2020, I thought of sharing my favourite films of the past ten years. If there is one thing that this decade (ahem) 2010-19 has shaped in me, is the love for cinema.
So, here goes:
Bengali – Abahaman
English – Inception
Hindi – Guzarish
Bengali – Baishe Srabon
English – Midnight in Paris
Hindi – Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara
Bengali – Chitrangada
English – Argo
Hindi – Gangs of Wasseypur
Bengali – Shobdo/Bakita Byaktigoto/Phoring
English – Gravity
Hindi – Lootera
Bengali – Jatishwar/Chotushkone/Asha Jaoyar Majhe/Apur Panchali
English – Interstellar, Birdman
Hindi – Haider
Bengali – Nirbaak, Belaseshe, Abby Sen
English – The Martian, The Man From Uncle, The Bridge of Spies
Hindi – Masaan, Dil Dhadakne Do
Bengali – Cinemawala
English – Moonlight
Hindi – Pink, Parched
Bengali – Bishorjon, Dhananjoy, Mayurakshi
English – Dunkirk, Call Me By Your Name
Hindi – Tumhari Sulu, Newton
Bengali – Rainbow Jelly, Pupa, Ek Je Chilo Raja
English – The Favourite
Hindi – Mulk
Bengali – Rajlokkhi O Srikanto, Nagarkirtan
English – Marriage Story
Hindi – Soni
Book Review: ‘So Now You Know – A Memoir of Growing Up Gay in India’ by Vivek Tejuja
“So when did you realise you are gay?”
“Who plays the role of woman when you do it?”
“Hi. You from? Your pic please. Do you have place?”
Aren’t we all tired of these same old clichéd questions, that keep coming our way, whether we like them or not? Don’t we all have those moments when we just want to simply scream ‘STFU’ from the rooftop and move on with life? Haven’t we all been through times when all we wanted was to hookup badly, and felt a deep sense of void grip us during the act?
If your answers to all those questions have been ‘yes’ – Congratulations. You are gay, and you know it.
Reading through ‘So Now You Know – A Memoir of Growing Up Gay in India’ by Vivek Tejuja, one could not help wondering how similar, yet different, our lives have been. Growing up in a joint family, being bullied in school, hetero-normative relatives who took it upon themselves to scare effeminism out of you, finding solace in books, the random hook-ups while longing for that one true love to come in your life, the penchant for opening up to those you love, the dejection when your friends become distant when they discover you are different – we have all been through life.
Vivek’s book took me back in time – having a crush on Dino Morea or Milind Soman and not having anyone to share it with, the straight friend in school whose company you found solace in, but he never reciprocated the feelings, trying to convince myself I can have feelings for girls – and lying about having a crush on a classmate to friends, the online chatrooms where strangers became acquaintances, blind dates, awkward hook-ups, insatiable urge to get into the pants of a hot ‘straight’ guy at the pub, falling for the guy who would ultimately let you down – been there done that.
His writing is so conversational that I almost felt like we were actually sitting by the sea at some coffee shop and discussing our lives. Vivek’s book is cathartic to an extent, too. It makes you look back in time and admit to the mistakes you could have rectified, or the sweet nothings you could cling on to.
Vivek came out to his family. I haven’t (well, my friends, colleagues and some of my cousins know). I never understood the deal with ‘coming out’. But then again, to not be able to share your ‘self’ with the people who matter makes life elusive and intangible. One cannot empathise enough with him, for not being able to share his ‘truth’ with his father – man to man.
Identities and stereotypes don’t define who we are. But they exist, may be for a reason. Sexuality is hardly the identity to label someone by. But in this world it sticks to your existence. It is our choice whether we want to live by it. In this endless search for life and love, we must first come to terms with ourselves. And Vivek surely has lived his life on his own terms.
‘So Now You Know’ connects with you on a personal level; the honesty behind the words give meaning to the feelings left unsaid. With so little ‘queer literature’ in India, I am sure this book will inspire many to come forward and share their stories. May be then we would truly be emancipated and inclusive.
My Rating: 4/5 stars
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